Who Are You?

Who are you?
Who are you really?
What defines you?

You don't have to know the answer.
I don't always know the answer, and perhaps I never have.
Some days, I am "myself," and I know exactly what that means.
Other days, I am someone else...and I don't like it.
Or maybe I do.
It all depends.

I think this is called being young; I haven't met a single person who always knew who they were. The eternal question burns within all of us: Who am I?
But I'm here to tell you it doesn't matter.
You don't have to know who you are.
You are YOU.
Who cares exactly what that means?

We are all obsessed with the idea that we must "find ourselves" in order to accomplish our goals; in order to be successful and worthy people.
But, as it turns out, the more I search for myself, the more I lose myself.
So who am I? It doesn't matter who I am.

But it does matter what I have, and I have a lot:
I have love.
I have grace.
I have power.
I have kind words.
I have a friendly smile.
I have compassion.
I have a gentle spirit.
I have gifts.
I have elegance.
I have understanding.
I have wisdom.
I have true beauty.

I don't always have all of these things; to be honest I maybe have a maximum of one at a time on a good day.
But that is not what defines me as a worthy person.
All of these are not "who I am", they are simply what I can attain.
But I can only have these things if I diligently seek them.
If I seek to understand them.
If I seek to use them for the good of those around me, and never for my own gain.

But I am comforted to know that my worth is not found in these things either.
My worth is calculated by someone entirely out of my playing field.
I don't have to know exactly "how much" I am worth, and neither do you.
It matters very little, in the grand scheme of things.

What matters is what I pursue.
These are my defining attributes.
For these I will be remembered and influential; not for who I am.

Because "this is just the way I am" is no longer an excuse. (It never was)
Since your worth is separate from just "who you are", you must make your actions be worth something. Because your actions are not affected by "who you are,"
they are affected by what you choose to have, and what how you choose to use it.

So don't worry about who you are.
Don't worry at all.
Instead, choose beauty; choose worthy actions.
Be you, and have the things that make you wonderful.